Blended families are born out of loss. The loss of a biological parent through either divorce or death. If it’s death it can be through natural causes, accident, sickness or disease; from wounds received in combat; or through acts of terror like those spouses killed in 9/11. Regardless of the circumstances of death the outcome is the same. Those dying with families leave behind grieving spouses and children who face the future without their loved one. Writer Shane Ted gives advice for those having to cope with loss.
When someone you love passes away, it can be extremely difficult to move on. A lot of people find themselves stuck as a result of the loss. They are unable to progress because of deep depression. They may also have feelings of guilt if they felt there was something they should have done to help the deceased.
Unfortunately, the death of a loved one is something you have to push through. In time, hopefully it does get easier, even though you never forget the person you loved. If you are struggling right now because someone that meant a lot to you passed away, continue reading for some tips that will help you cope with the loss.
Let Your Grief Come Out
Trying to hide or suppress your grief in an effort to avoid it will only make things worse. You have to make it a point to really work through your grief. Putting on a brave face for family members is not necessary. If you break down, hopefully they will understand. On the other hand, hiding your raw emotions will only push them down and force them to resurface later on, potentially causing your grief to last even longer.
Stay Connected
Keep the other loved ones in your life close to you during this difficult time. Make it a point to talk things out with them because they are there to support you, and you are there to support them as well. Discuss your feelings in an effort to work through them. Talk about the things you loved about the deceased, laugh at funny memories, and accept others’ efforts to help you if you need it.
Remember There’s No Time Limit
Don’t feel as though there is a time limit on grief. Everyone works through grief in their own time. If it is taking you longer to get over the death of a loved one, do not let others tell you it’s wrong. Continue doing your best to remember the good times and let any guilt you feel about the death fade away because there is no reason to make yourself feel guilty in the first place.
Stay Strong to Get Through the First Year
The first year after the death of a loved one is often considered the hardest because it is the first time you will be experiencing special occasions without that loved one in your life. Therefore, let yourself grieve through all of these times, whether they are birthdays, anniversaries, or holidays, and understand that it will eventually get better with time as you learn to live without the person.
Keep Doing What You Love
A great way to work through grief is to continue doing what you enjoy. Keep working hard at your passions and continue pursuing your hobbies, whether they include art, music, exercise, or simply sitting quietly in nature and meditating. These activities will keep your mind busy and will remind you that life will go on.
Losing someone dear to you is extremely hard. Take the time necessary to grieve, and don’t be afraid to ask people close to you for help when you need it.
This post was contributed by Shane Ted who is a consultant by profession. His grey cells spell creativity and he enjoys listening to music as well as playing the harmonica. Click here for more information.
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