Regrettably, vowing to forsake all others is no guarantee a spouse will remain faithful during their marriage. In fact, the odds are stacked against it. You might be guilty of thinking men are much more likely to stray while in a long-term relationship, but this is not true.
Research indicates women are just as likely to have affairs, and are actually much better at deceiving their partners. If you suspect your spouse is unfaithful, here are a few signs your suspicions may not be groundless.
Consistently Working Late
Working late is sometimes necessary in a demanding job. If your partner is suddenly claiming to be working late and not answering their phone, it could be cause for concern.
It may be they are genuinely busy – perhaps they are working hard to secure a promotion – but if they come home late every night with a series of vague excuses, start looking at other aspects of their behavior.
Cell Phone Addiction
An unfaithful spouse who is incredibly careful and anxious not to get caught, will probably be using their cell phone to communicate with their illicit lover.
A spouse who suddenly starts taking their cell phone with them everywhere and who refuses to put it down could be hiding something.
- Does their phone buzz at all hours of the day and night?
- Do they periodically disappear to take “work calls”?
Changes in Behavior
When a spouse engages in an extra marital relationship, it is highly likely their regular routine will change in order to make time with their lover.
For example, if your spouse previously went to the gym before work but has recently been going to the gym after work instead – and returning with unused gym gear – they may be indulging in another type of cardio workout.
Renewed Interest in their Personal Appearance
After many years of marriage, a lot of couples become relaxed about their appearance. They no longer see the point in making an effort to dress up or keep in shape – after all, their partner professes to love them no matter what.
So when your spouse starts exerting extra effort to look good, it could be cause for concern. And if your partner begins buying sexy lingerie or starts making an effort to get in shape, it may not be you they are hoping to impress.
Sixth Sense
Never underestimate the power of intuition. Very often, when you sense something “isn’t quite right”, there is a good reason for your unease. Obviously, unless you have evidence to back up your claims, it isn’t a good idea to accuse your partner of cheating.
Indeed don’t automatically dismiss your concerns as paranoia if you feel something doesn’t feel right. Instead, start doing some discrete digging to determine if you should be concerned. And if you find evidence, confront your spouse sooner rather than later.
Living in fear your spouse is cheating on you is not nice, so instead of losing sleep, find out for sure one way or another. Either do some investigating, or hire a private investigator to dig the dirt on your behalf.
The author of this post is Jay Osborne, an employee at In Depth Investigations, leading fraud investigators in Perth. Jay loves cooking and surfing.
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