Parenting is an incredibly rewarding experience, but it also has its challenges. When you enter into a family as a stepdad, there can be a lot of trial and error – particularly when it comes to the important conversations.
As difficult as it may seem, talking with your teen about drinking and driving can play a huge role in the view they have of it. What are some of the most important things to keep in mind when talking with your teen about drinking and driving?
Establish the Relationship First
As a parent, it’s so important to have a strong relationship with your child. Sometimes it can feel as though your teen might be slipping away, but keep in mind everything comes in phases.
If you’re coming into the family as a stepparent, take the time to get to know your stepkids. Whether you’re a stepdad or biological father, knowing your child is crucial.
It’s also a good idea to know who your teen’s friends are and what generally goes on in their lives.
Keep Lines of Communication Open
With an established relationship, it’s a good idea to bring up drinking and driving as early as possible. The earlier the conversation begins coming up, the more comfortable your child can become with talking to you about it.
If you wait to bring up the conversation until it’s absolutely necessary, it may come across as more of an attack and your child may get defensive. Let them know they can always come to you with questions and you’re there to help them.
Remind them that it’s the Law
Although you don’t want them to obey merely out of fear, it’s still a good idea to explain how extreme the repercussions of a DUI are. Not only could it mean jail time and destroying chances of getting a job in the future, but it could also end in someone getting injured or worse.
It’s Always Okay to Call
Possibly, the most important thing you can tell your child is it’s always okay for them to call you for a ride – whether they’ve been drinking or a friend they rode with was drinking. Explain to them they won’t get in trouble if they call, and that no matter the circumstance you will come to pick them up.
Have a Designated Curfew
Giving your teen a designated curfew is helpful for keeping them off the roads late at night when they tend to get a bit more dangerous.
A Final Note
While big conversations such as drinking and driving can feel slightly intimidating as a stepdad, it doesn’t have to be! Spend time with them in and around the car in ways allowing you to bond. Instill a sense of pride in your teen and in their vehicle.
Keep it simple – let your child know you’re always there for them. Make sure you and their biological parent agree on your approach and go from there. It’s important to set rules with your teen driver from the onset to avoid road dangers.
