Feel like your family problems are getting in the way of your health and happiness? We get it. Sometimes, finances, busy schedules, and illness can wreak havoc on your family life and make you question everything — including your sanity.
In this article, we’ll share ways to cope with some of the most common stressors to help you and your family find peace amidst the craziness.
The Most Common Family Problems
While a list called “family problems” could probably go on forever, there are a few that top the list of the most stressful types. We’ll get to those in a minute, but it’s important to note that any stress on your family can feel like the hardest thing to you. That is normal!
It can be hard to see a way out in the trenches. But when you know what to look out for, sometimes you can avoid the pitfalls that make them worse. Let’s take a look at some of these stressors to help you navigate through the trials of life:
1. Financial Stress
It’s no secret that money can play a huge role in family dynamics. And when money is tight, tempers can flare. Not only that, but money struggles can also lead to resentment when it comes to doing the lion’s share of the work with your kids.
While one parent may be working extra hours, the other may be working their regular schedule and handling all of the responsibilities at home. This is overwhelming for both parties, but things can go downhill fast without proper communication.
One of the best things you can do is start at the root of the problem together. Assess what your budget is. Then, identify where you can potentially make cuts or, where you do, need to bring in more income. Maybe even get a budgeting app to track all of your expenses.
By having an accurate picture of your finances together, you can be partners in the solution.
Blended Family Finances
Each situation is different, but here are a few quick tips for managing finances in a second marriage:
- Understand spending habits: Both of your probably came into your marriage with different money-spending ideas. That’s ok! But you should both be aware of where your money is going.
- Give each other access — or at least the knowledge of — all assets: Lay it all out on the table so you can make informed decisions about your future finances.
- Talk about your goals: A common goal makes money management much easier! Share in the journey and the burden so that neither one of you gets overwhelmed.
- Implement a budget: A budget will save your bottom line and keep you from stressing about each dollar. Stick to that budget; your family will have less to fight about!
- Put all paperwork in order: Unexpected things happen. You’ll want to ensure all the paperwork is in order and that all the beneficiaries are updated on each account after you get married.
2. Busy Schedules
In addition to finances, packed schedules with kids going here and there to practice, rehearsal, a game, their friend’s house, school, etc., on top of your work schedules can be overwhelming.
It may seem like you’re two ships passing in the night, and there’s not enough time to catch up on what’s happening. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, take the time to catch up at least once a week and remind yourselves of your connection.
3. Blended Family Dynamics
Blended family dynamics can undoubtedly make things…complicated. When you have different parenting styles, schedules, and relationships with each party involved, it can be easy to pick fights, and miscommunication can abound.
The truth is there’s no easy way to blend a family. Kids may be of different ages and at different developmental stages when their parents remarry. They may have a preference for whose house they like more. They may have opinions on new kids coming in or having a new stepdad or stepmom.
It can be stressful to navigate! But that doesn’t mean it’s impossible or that it’s never going to get better. A little patience and a lot of love can help you and your family get to a place where you feel less stressed and content with your new rhythm.
Handling Your Family Problems
No matter what stressors you have thrown your way or what family problems arise, there are ways to tackle each issue head-on.
Don’t let arguments or lack of time distract you from what matters: each other. There’s a light at the end of the tunnel if you’re willing to look — and work — for it. And when you can look around and see your life feeling a bit heavy and overwhelming, take a step back.
You’ve got this! Keep reading our blog here for more tips on navigating complex family relationships.
